Attracting The Right Woman

Attracting the right woman is about channeling
the power of TRUTH when it comes to values
and morals and relationships.

Today, more than ever, the truth is obscured
in lies and distortions, our culture has become
almost SCARED to give good advice, because
it might offend the “cool” (i.e. IGNORANT)
people.

There’s no question that things weren’t perfect
in the past, but there’s also no question that
what’s “cool” today in terms of women has
become a little more warped than ever before.

Can you even IMAGINE a female singer
like this TODAY?

And yet, you also know that there is something
inherently GOOD about this song, this performance,
and I daresay that it has something to do with
morals.  Not only the lyrics, but the whole
PRESENTATION AND STYLE is infused
with humility and not arrogance.

This isn’t what you get when you turn on
MTV.

This is the unspoken TRUTH that no one wants
to talk about today.

So I say, YELL IT OUT, proclaim it, as it’s
something that actually is DESIRED and
wanted, but no one has the guts to do it
since it’s not already a “trend” and most
people want to be followers and not take
any chances.

When chatting up a woman who is a total
stranger, the problem most guys run into
is that they come across as cheesy and
not being authentic. It seems like
“here we go again, guy tries to pick
up woman with his one liner”.

There is nothing more powerful than
coming across as being for REAL.

In fact, the strongest impact you
can have is when she feels she is
getting TRUTH and that this truth
is coming from a MAN not from a
boy who is still immature.

As a GOOD GUY, this is something that
is very POWERFUL for you.

The crazy thing though, is that there is so much
falsehood that MASQUERADES as the truth, and so
few good guys are even out there CHALLENGING
the lies, so the jerks win by default.

It’s like good guys aren’t even showing
up to the event, so the jerks win.

So, for example, the book “The Game”
SEEMED like the truth to millions of men.

It exploits the pain that millions of men
feel from how tough it is to meet and
attract a woman who is a total stranger,
and basically says “See? The reason you
couldn’t get a girl was because you weren’t
using these GAMES!”

And the book also seems to promise such
massive and easy results from using these
games and abusive tactics such as making
a woman feel less confident about herself,
etc.

I don’t even blame the author!
I honestly think he is a good guy
who himself got brainwashed!

Even in the book itself, Neil Strauss
mentions at the very end that “relationships
are not a game”- and so if you REALLY
believe that, then you know that starting
a relationship with games, or approaching
a woman with using games, is not a
strong FOUNDATION for starting
a relationship on.

Also, even in the book itself, Neil mentions
how the one woman he actually really wanted
more than all the others, NONE of the games
stuff worked on HER.  And in fact, the games
pushed her away and it was only when he
STOPPED the games with her that he actually
got her.

Somehow, this part of the book seems to
have gotten totally lost on guys, because
99% of the book is all about how the
games WORK on women- it just doesn’t
make it clear WHICH type of women
it works on, and how quickly the
connection and spark will be ruined
with a woman because the guy was
using those games.

Now, the truth is, of course, that not all
women are angels, that’s for sure.

The women who are not up to par character
wise, well the best thing is to AVOID
them, not to “game” them.

The problem with “The Game” is that it
makes you think that you weren’t being
enough of a jerk, or that you were not
undermining a woman’s self-esteem enough,
when in reality the solution is to start
having more conviction in yourself
rather than on trying to lower hers.

Also, of course, the other part of the
solution is to find better women.

If you need to play manipulative
mind-games to get a woman, I assure
you that the whole thing is going to
fall apart very quickly. You probably
already know that if you tried those
tactics.

But this is why I created Get A GREAT Girl,
because it’s not about “getting all the women”
it’s about getting the RIGHT one, and becoming
the best MAN you can be.

And what does TRUTH have to do with
getting the RIGHT woman?

The answer is: EVERYTHING.

Allow me to give an example:
If you see a woman, anywhere, there are about
a million things you could open up the conversation
with, that are all COMPELLING, if you just stick
to what is TRUE and what you CARE about.

For me, for example, I want to know what
a woman’s values are like, and how mature
she is emotionally, so I might actually ask her
what she thinks of the fact that men and women
are so often not being honest with each other.

I know it will be a great conversation- where
the things she says will show me a lot about
her character, and where I have a lot of
passionate things to say as well.

Truth to me is always extremely important.

I’ve mentioned before for example, how the
show and movie “Sex and the City” was
supposed to all be about some form of
“empowerment” for women because now
these women sleep around all of New York
City and gab about it to their fellow female
friends.

Now, in fact, none of the women are fulfilled
from this- even on the show- and the writers
had to do this because if they showed these
women actually feeling so great from all this
it would FLY IN THE FACE OF REALITY
of all the women who in reality are NOT
FULFILLED FROM ALL THIS.

So the female audience actually RELATES
to the screwed-upness of the situation of
the characters on the show, and yet the
show never makes the OBVIOUS TRUTH
CLEAR- which is that the solution is for
these women to start focusing on finding
the RIGHT man rather than on emulating
the very worst men that are out there.

Recently, I read a book by Michael Coren,
“As I See It”, where he actually points out
that New York City has one of the highest
percentage of people with genital herpes,
ANYWHERE on the planet.

It’s actually one in four people, and women
are even more likely than men to have it
in New York City.

Why does THIS not get shown on the women
Of SEX AND THE CITY????????????????

Why does THIS not get shown in most movies?

That’s because the truth is something that although
is staring us in the face all the time, is also something
that most people will NOT see.

And yet, when the real truth DOES finally
sink in, you want to kick yourself for not
seeing it so much earlier.

So what I’m saying here is that if you want
to be BETTER than average, if you want
to get a GREAT girl, then you have to
become something that is more than just
the mass-production McDonald’s style
of how to approach women with gimmicks,
lines, routines, and games.

Start tapping into TRUTH, it’s soooooooo
much more powerful because so few people
ever use it and so few people are strong
enough to tap into it.

Most people would rather live in the “Matrix”
and fool themselves, and in fact there is a
whole society that has men and women interacting
in the game mode, and it’s all really pathetic
because the whole thing is doomed to failure
since it’s built on a weak foundation devoid
of love, wisdom, and other great elements
of character.

And I’m not saying that LOOKS aren’t important,
I think it’s VERY important to feel physical
chemistry for the woman you are with, I just
think that it’s not enough and that there needs
to be the big picture built on truth.

By the way, all these things in this column
would actually make for a great conversation
with women because it’s about relationships,
it’s about men and women interacting, it’s
definitely all EMOTIONALLY RELEVANT
content.

Another quick point I want to make here
is that in addition to the CONTENT of
what you are talking about, the other
major thing, maybe in fact even MORE
important, is the combination of emotional
states that make up for one fantastic state
of mind- the combination of feeling upbeat,
sexual, dominant, is so crucial for
effectively conveying who you are
to a woman you just met- she will
feel these emotions pulsing through
you by listening to the intonations of
your TONALITY in your voice.

It’s not whether you have a deep pitch or
high pitch or in between, what is important
are the emotions she DETECTS in your
voice, and she does all this subconsciously-
she is not thinking about it.

Again, being in an UPBEAT state while
also feeling dominant and sexual is very
important. You should NOT feel like
you are going into some kind of military
situation when you are approaching a woman.

Being manly does not mean being brooding
like Batman.

In fact, even if you were to ask BOXERS
you would find out that the boxer who is
HAPPY in general, does much better than
the boxer who is all brooding and such.

In fact, Mike Tyson himself said this,
and by the way, the documentary about
him called “Tyson” is a pretty good film,
because it PROVES so many things-
it shows how working TOGETHER and
having true friends is the way to really
accomplish things, as Tyson was going
down a terrible path in life until he met
this man named Cus D’Amato who
became like a father to him-

It shows how losing his discipline when it
came to many things, but especially when it
came to women, actually was a huge part
of his own downfall – the womanizing
clearly brought him down, and he is the
first to acknowledge this.

Instead of emulating the NEGATIVE aspects
of celebrity behavior, we should learn to
AVOID THOSE THINGS and to see how
those negative things are not a sign of
a successful man, but rather the UNDOING
of a successful man.

It also shows how EMOTIONAL STATE
is often the difference between a champ and the
guy who gets DEFEATED.