There’s a ton of GOLD I’m about to share with you
regarding what women want you to BE in order for
them to feel WOMANLY.
Ready, set, GO:
NUMBER ONE: MASCULINITY
This is such a huge thing that I started
speaking about even in even in my
very first book years ago, which is
that in order for her to feel like a
WOMAN, you must behave like a MAN.
This has absolutely NOTHING to do
with acting arrogant, or with thinking
that women are less intelligent, less
capable, or with thinking that women
should all be barefoot and pregnant
in the kitchen all the time.
In fact, that kind of thinking comes from
ignorance or insecurity, the opposite things
from being the essence of a man.
What I mean by masculinity is a certain
type of ruggedness in essence. It means not
acting like a PRETTY BOY or being obsessed
with looking in the mirror or being too caught
up in plucking your eyebrows or shaving
your body all over the place, etc, etc.
Grooming and hygiene is EXTREMELY
important, obviously, but being a “pretty boy”
is the antithesis of masculinity.
Seriously, this metrosexual stuff makes
some men seem more FEMININE THAN
THE WOMAN, and this robs a woman of
her feelings of femininity.
That means in bed she will not feel PASSIONATE
as a woman.
Being a MAN is a good thing, regardless of
what some feminists say.
This brings us to the next point, on dominance:
TWO:
DOMINANCE
Dominance is definitely one of the most important
concepts for attraction, but it is misunderstood, and
then gets perverted and distorted, and turned into a
mockery by most people.
The reality is that most women although they
expect to be treated with equality in general,
they want to feel WOMANLY around you,
and especially so in bed, and they want you to
be the MAN.
However, in order for a woman to SUBMIT to
a man’s dominance, she must be able to TRUST him
and ALSO feel he is genuinely worthy and masculine.
This means that you must not only exude
CONFIDENCE in general so that she feels
you are THE MAN, but you must also earn
her COMPLETE TRUST, so that she feels
SAFE in and womanly in submitting to you.
And what I mean by trust is not just the trust that
you will not cause her any actual HARM, what
I mean is that she trusts you on a deep level that
you will still totally respect her and in fact
CHERISH her for all this.
She must know that you do NOT think that women
are ANY less than men, that you do not think she is
less than you in any way, not less intelligent, or less capable,
or less worthy.
This is NOT about being a Neanderthal.
It’s about knowing that a woman is a human
being with all the same rights as a man, but
ALSO knowing that she is WOMAN sexually
and that she naturally wants to FEEL that role,
and she cannot feel that role if you do NOT
act dominant and assertive in bed.
Old fashioned society knew the importance of
masculinity and femininity and preserved those
roles, but it also unfortunately had some screwed
up concepts of women. Modern society has
progressed in some ways, which is good, but
it has also LOST the concept of how important
it is to protect femininity and masculinity and
to cherish and preserve those identities, and losing
that is a great loss as well.
You want to be the BEST of both worlds-
respecting a good woman who has earned
your respect, and ALSO making her feel
like a WOMAN by you being THE MAN.
It’s when you COMBINE this best of both
worlds that you spark the MAGIC in her
known as INSANE ATTRACTION TO YOU!
Show your masculinity through your demeanor,
your tonality, your decisiveness, your conviction
in yourself, and show your respect through being
sensitive to her as a fellow human being as well,
and when it comes to being under the sheets,
be way more assertive than you have been, and
you’ll be surprised to find out that 99% of women
LOVE it when you take control.
This doesn’t mean that she can never take control or
be assertive, of course it doesn’t mean that. And it
doesn’t mean that there shouldn’t be that softer
kind of lovemaking as well. Of course it doesn’t
mean that. It means that as a general principle,
being more DOMINANT is key, key, KEY.
I really do believe that this has its roots in our
biological makeup and chemistry, and is not just
a cultural thing, because in fact our culture seems
to imply we should all be identical, and yet that
doesn’t create attraction at all. So that’s why
I think it’s really in men’s and women’s genes
to be this way, to only feel chemistry this way.
THREE:
YOU HAVE TO MEET A LOT OF WOMEN
If you’re not MEETING a lot of women, then
unless you have special connections it’s going to
be impossible to ever meet the RIGHT woman.
So whether you are meeting these women in
person by approaching them as strangers, or
you are meeting on the internet, or through
speed-dating, or whatever other method,
the key is to be meeting MANY women
and checking out their personalities.
Now this has nothing to do with being a
womanizer or with dating several women
at once. I’m not into either of those things,
as you know I’m all about how to find the
RIGHT woman and I actually believe
that if you are dating several women at
once, you will not be able to focus on
the woman properly, which will not only
suck for her, but will prevent you from
properly being able to sense who she
REALLY is and whether she is really
right for you or not.
However, if you want to meet the RIGHT
woman, that means a woman who is not
only attractive but who also shares and
cherishes the same VALUES as you do.
In order to meet a woman who shares the
same “blueprint” regarding your values
and perception of things, you will HAVE
to meet many women, it’s the only way,
anything else is playing the lottery game
which is just plain ridiculous.
Laziness is the ENEMY here.
You will have to WORK it, my man.
If you are deciding to meet women through
cold approaches to strangers, you will have
to do it again and again.
If you’re meeting women through social events,
you may have to go to a LOT of them.
If you decide to work the online personals,
then you will have to WORK it there as well.
Don’t expect that the first woman you message
or meet to be the one. Don’t expect to get too far
with a half-assed profile, make your profile as damn
good as possible, and as ACCURATE and consistent
to who you are as possible. (more on this below)
But if you WORK it, over and over again,
for WEEKS at a time, you WILL get the
kind of results you are looking for.
Now, whether you are meeting in person,
online, or any other way, here’s another key:
FOUR:
KNOW WHAT YOU WANT AND BE
COMPLETELY CONSISTENT WITH IT
It’s really a turn off to a quality woman who
is looking for the real thing when she sees
MASSIVE INCONSISTENCIES in the
things you are saying, doing, or writing.
Inconsistencies come from trying to be
someone you are not.
And that comes from FEAR that you will
be rejected for who you ARE.
So I have news for you:
PLEASE ALLOW WOMEN TO REJECT
YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Embrace that because trust me, you WANT
to get RID of the women who do NOT want
who you really ARE!
Being with the wrong women wastes precious
TIME that you could be using on finding the
RIGHT woman.
Seriously, the best thing I ever did was when
I stopped trying to be “Mr. Cool” and Mr. Pick Up Artist
and instead realized that I believed in my OWN values
enough to the point that if a woman or even if ALL
women didn’t share those values then I really had
no DESIRE to be with them in the first place,
I would rather be SINGLE.
It’s amazing the crazy things we will do out
of the fear of being alone, as if being alone
was the worst thing that could happen to
a person.
Being alone is like being in HEAVEN compared
to pretending to be someone you are NOT.
But that’s just the tip of the iceberg, because
guess what?
The kind of woman who really IS the right match
for you, the kind of woman who really DOES share
your values, will ONLY be attracted to you if she
can DETECT that you have those values, and she
will NEVER detect them if you are trying to be
someone ELSE.
As long as you are not being true to your values,
you are not A FREE MAN, and that is the most
unattractive thing of all. You become a slave
to SOCIAL PRESSURE, you don’t act like
a man, you are not “your own man”.
Start embracing and cherishing and defending your
values and LIVE them, breathe them, let them
exude from your every action and word, and, if
you are doing the online dating thing, then from
your every WRITTEN word.
If you are looking for a real long term relationship,
then make sure to NOT message the girls who
are looking for one night stands.
Inconsistencies end up confusing you on
a subconscious level and make you behave
in ways that are incongruent and that end up
telling the RIGHT WOMAN that you are
WRONG for her!
What kind of man will you be if you aren’t
confident enough in your own values to
BELIEVE they are worth it, that they are
worth the sacrifice of losing some of the
women out there- if you are not ready to
say NO to some women out there, then
you will never really be qualified to say
YES to ANY of them.
FIVE:
LISTENING TO QUALIFY HER
If you are serious about meeting the right woman,
then when you do meet a woman anywhere, I
urge you to get her TALKING about herself
and what’s important to her, and I urge you
to start listening better than ever before.
This is not to “show” you are a nice guy-
it’s to ACTUALLY FIND OUT if she
is right for you!
Now, the thing is, if you DO detect from the
things that she is saying that she DOES have
the right things you are looking for, well then
now you have something extremely POWERFUL
for attracting her, which is that you can
GENUINELY QUALIFY HER.
It’s interesting, because in sales, the best salesmen
on the planet are not the sleazy stereotypes of
a salesman. Nope, rather they are consultative
sales people. They are trying to find out if
what they have is what you are looking for,
and if not they will help lead you in the
right direction so you can find it somewhere
else, because at least then they have STILL
provided VALUE and will be remembered
which helps increase the possibility the
customer will come BACK.
Well, it’s not THAT different when it comes
to being great with women. You should
genuinely be listening to see what it is
she is really about, what she is really looking
for even if she is not conscious of it- and
then if you know you are the MATCH
for her, you now have all the reasons
that she has given you – either she has directly
given them to you through what she has said
or she has indirectly told you, and now you
can qualify her for being the right MATCH
for all the reasons she has actually given to you.
A woman wants to be chosen, not settled for.
and she wants to be with the RIGHT guy,
and she wants to know she is the woman
for that guy.
SIX:
CONFIDENCE WITHOUT ARROGANCE
If you are looking to attract a great woman who is
the total deal – inside and out, well chances
are she knows she’s got VALUE, and yet she’s
also not ARROGANT.
Like attracts like, and similar mindsets attract as well.
It’s incredibly, massively RARE to meet people who
have VALUE and who aren’t spoiled.
Those people who have value and who still keep
themselves GROUNDED and not arrogant are
like the PLATINUM of PERSONALITIES.
So, for example, if you exude confidence and
masculinity and yet you don’t reek of player
infidelity and lack of integrity, a great woman
will pick up on this FAST.
So, in order to accelerate the process of becoming
this kind of man, start asking yourself:
“Is this thing that I am doing or saying or writing
flow from CONFIDENCE, or from ARROGANCE?”
“Does this action I am about to do come from
LOVE or from NEEDINESS?”
Become STRICT with yourself to annihilate
NEEDINESS and ARROGANCE from your
soul, and replace them with the kind of quiet
confidence that is like a Wolverine- quiet, not
seeking attention, yet devastatingly powerful
and resolved to win in all situations.
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